In our previous articles here and here, you heard me and my colleague speak about curiosity being one of the best tools to empower people and about bringing more connection into the workplace by showing interest and giving voice to others.
1. Powerful questions are open
By asking a question that can be answered with Yes or No, we cut the other person off from the option of exploring all possibilities that a situation brings. By replacing a closed Yes/No question with an open one, we invite the other person to explore their situation from a broader perspective and to come up with their own, creative solutions.
How do you see this being implemented? Instead of
2. Powerful questions start with Wh- words (with the exception of Why) and How
Ideal words to start an open question with are What, Where and How. These adverbs invite the other side to explain themselves and to explore the possibilities that come with a specific situation. At the same time, they indicate that we are ready to listen to what the person has to say and that we are genuinely interested in their input.
Powerful questions don’t start with the word Why. Why? Because Why often evokes the feeling of pressure, the other person might feel like they need to justify themselves. As a result, they might shut down or get defensive. With a bit of practice, it becomes easy to learn to “neutralize” open questions by replacing Why with What.
3. Powerful questions are short and to the point
Again, open questions are about putting you in charge. The shorter and clearer our question is, the more space there is for thinking and creativity in the other person. Make sure to cut off all unnecessary words or words indicating your opinion or assumption.
What makes this important for you? Instead of What makes this important for you now when we are all busy with other projects and the holiday season is approaching?
4. Powerful questions are created in the moment
Yes, there are endless lists of sample powerful questions on the internet. They might be very useful to look at them as examples, however what makes a powerful question even more powerful is when it is created as a result of genuine and focused listening.
Ask your powerful questions as a follow-up to something that was just said. This way you make sure that the other person feels truly listened to and feels ready to take charge and engage in thinking deeply about their answer. People are more open once they feel the other side is truly interested in what they have to say. Powerful questions, as a follow-up, are an open invitation to take time to create something
People tend to take charge when they feel supported, recognized and resourceful. The only challenge for many people is to not to give their power away, especially when their education teaches them to always go with the crowd and respect traditional hierarchy.
Powerful questions have the power to transform the dynamics of relationships in any kind of environment. In modern organizations, where leadership does not equal micromanagement, coaching your employees, by asking powerful questions, is the way to empower them to take responsibility for their work, their development and engagement.
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Professional Certified Co-Active Coach and a member of International Coach Federation. She has a wealth of experience working with young professionals and leaders in international corporations, expats, students and people experiencing a significant transition or change in their lives. Anna successfully supports her clients in finding their true values and passion in order for them to successfully design their own authentic and fulfilling path.